“Smiling is infectious, you catch it like the flu. When someone smiled at me today, I started smiling too.”
~ Karen McLendon-Laumann
Smiling is indeed important in our everyday life, both in our personal lives as well as within the workplace. Dale Carnegie noted that “the expression one wears on one’s face is far more important than the clothes one wears on one’s back.”
I wanted to blog about the impact one smile can make. To begin, a smile is one of the most obvious and effective methods of non-verbal communication. It is one of the first things someone will notice about you. A smile, both physically as well as subconsciously, transmits the message, ‘I’m glad you’re here and I’m happy to see you.’
Smiling has implications, both in our personal as well as our business relationships. Smiling overcomes barriers and open doors for people. A sincere smile is a message of goodwill, and is considered a sign of hospitality and confidence when dealing with a friend or a business associate.
So we know that a smile is well and good, but what happens if you don’t feel like smiling? Well, emotions can be controlled to a certain extent, both physically and emotionally. As such, you can evoke a smile using these two methods.
– The human body associates physical responses with the associated emotion. For example, if you slouch a lot, your body will naturally feel more sluggish as compared to a person who maintains a good posture.
– Similarly, even if you feel sad, you can still draw your lips together and lift up the ends to form a smile. You might find your mood improving naturally. This technique has helped me improve my mood countless of times.
– Smile with your eyes. This technique involves concentrating your smile on your eyes instead of your lips. Think of your eyes smiling, or twinkling. You will find that your entire face will have to lift itself to accomplish this. You will find your cheekbones lifting up and the tip of your lips lifting up to form a smile.
– Our emotional state is all in our state of mind. I’m not a psychologist, but I would say that you’ve gotta WANT to be happy, in order to BE happy. When you WANT to be happy, think happy thoughts. Think about a calm meadow, think about a loved one or a joke maybe.
– Remember, happiness is frequently a choice. Abraham Lincoln once noted that “most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” We can choose to be happy or miserable. Do choose happiness to fill your life.
There is the saying “Smile and the whole world smiles with you.” Well, sayings like this are actually grounded in fact. When you smile, it does tend to trigger off smiles in others around you. Even in extremely stressful situations, a smile can easily brighten up everybody’s mood.
The value of a smile is priceless. It can’t be bought, begged or borrowed. It costs nothing to give, but is the most sincere gift that one might be able to give to another. A smile brings rest to the weary, and is the best antidote for discouragement. It brings sunshine to the sad and hope to the hopeless.
A smile is infectious. Start infecting people and winning friends with your smile today!
- Older adults spot phoney smiles better, study shows (physorg.com)
- Make your body language work for you, not against you. (prptraining.wordpress.com)
- Anne Naylor: 7 Solid Reasons To Smile (huffingtonpost.com)
- Smile, baby! (psychologytoday.com)
- Reason to Smile #25 – Don’t Hate, Appreciate (smilealwaysl.wordpress.com)