If You Cannot See Where You are Going, Ask Someone Who has Been There Before



If you haven’t seen ‘STEM’ in the headlines lately, stay tuned, because you will. STEM, short for Science, Technology, Engineering, and Mathematics, is an area of study and jobs where women (and minorities) are grossly underrepresented. Proof of the importance of this fact is that eight of Forbe’s magazine’s Ten Most Powerful Women in business work in STEM fields.

The single most common factor these women share? A mentor. In honor of Women’s History Month, I encourage you to positively impact young lives and help guide the next generation of ground-breaking women.

If you aren’t a six-figure earning glass-ceiling buster or aren’t a woman and think that excludes you from this conversation, you’re not off the hook that easily.  There is more than ample opportunity to be a mentor in other ways –  intellectual, mental, spiritual, emotional, athletic…. The point is to share some of your accumulated skills and knowledge. You know, those things you wish you had figured out a decade earlier?

A mere 5% of Fortune 500 CEOs are women. BUT, a recent study by EY’s Women Athletes Business Network and espnW found that 94% of women executives have a background in sport and more than half of women in C-level positions played at the collegiate level. Soccer moms and dads, I’m talking to you.

Mentoring is a chance for both participants to learn. If you want a mentor, and I urge everyone to continuously seek opportunities to grow, don’t be shy. Ask that person who has something you want, whether it is a job in engineering or great spiritual peace, if they would be willing to speak with you. Most will be flattered. Start that conversation today.

If you work in a STEM field, find local opportunities to mentor here: http://www.millionwomenmentors.org/

If you don’t, here are a few options:




 Do you have a mentor story you would like to share?

A person who made an impact in your life? Please share your experiences and feel free to add additional resources for mentors and mentees.




Atlantic Coast Pipeline – In our Backyards

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Nearly everyone who lives in or owns property in the path of the Atlantic Coast Pipeline has an opinion. Generally a strong one.

The proposed $5 billion, 550-mile natural gas pipeline that Dominion hopes to have in place by 2016 will clearly have an impact on the area if passed–whether that impact is a positive one or not, is the source of contention.

The four major energy companies spearheading the project– Dominion, Duke Energy, Piedmont Natural Gas, and AGL Resources – have invested a lot of time and, well, energy trying to convince area residents that the pipeline will benefit the region. That the project will provide a reliable source of natural gas, curtail spikes in consumers’ energy costs, and provide jobs.

Opponents in Virginia voice concern about the possible consequences of the 42” pipeline – environmental impact on water supplies, the native habitat of animal species, destruction of iconic scenery, and property values. Also at issue is whether the Karst topography of the land can safely support the structure.

Recent natural gas explosions brought the issue to the attention of the national media. “Natural gas transmission is relatively safe but that is like saying that flying is safe until your plane goes down,” said U.S. Senate’s Commerce Committee chair Senator Jay Rockefeller, D-WV, following the 2012 explosion in his state.

The latest proposed pipeline route would affect 40-50 miles national forests including 13 miles of the George Washington National Forest, as well as the Appalachian Trail, and the Blue Ridge Parkway.

Letters dated February 23rd, the same day opponents protested and 10 were arrested in the state’s capital, informed 186 additional Nelson County property owners that surveying of their land will begin Monday March 2nd. Residents across the Valley are refusing to allow surveyors on their land and continue to organize to stop the pipeline. If you have received a letter and do not wish to allow surveyors on your property, there are lines set up to verbally deny permission.

Neither side is backing down. Dominion is releasing information daily to try to allay the concerns of citizens and tout the effort as a boon to the economic development, state and local revenue, and domestic energy supplies.

Whatever your thoughts and concerns, I urge you to stay abreast of developments and how they will impact you and your property. Become an advocate for yourself and the place you call home.

The Most Common Way People Give up Their Power is by Thinking They Don’t Have Any

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Some problems seem so large, so daunting, that we feel we can’t make a difference. That there is no way we can possibly effect any change.

Thankfully, there are some among us who take that first step to address a problem that seems so insurmountable. In Rockfish Valley, Pastor Marion Kanour is such a person. She formed the Nelson County Domestic Violence Task Force, which met for the first time in January 2014. She and 15 other like-minded individuals with purpose and courage met to create working groups to determine their first steps needed to help combat the devastation of domestic violence here in the Valley.

“Domestic violence is often unspoken and underreported,” said Kanour. “That’s why we want to increase awareness and create community support.”

The group meets on third Saturdays to support one another and plan for their goal of a shelter in Nelson County. The group plans to create a brochure, a newsletter, and a website to be resources for those who need help. The group has already created a peer counseling system, a hotline for those in immediate need, free self-defense classes through task force member Josh Copson, and a weekly support group for those leaving abusive relationships.

This month is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month. Commonwealth Attorney Anthony Martin will present a program at Nelson County High School this month to help raise awareness of the cycle of abuse.

The task force plans to continue all of these activities, with the ultimate goal of creating a shelter in Nelson County.

Domestic violence affects a shocking number of people – likely including someone you know. The non-denominational task force is in the process of obtaining non-profit status and is actively seeking alliances from area churches, businesses, and community groups.

As author and activist Audre Lorde told us so many years ago, “Your silence will not protect you.” I encourage you to speak up for yourself or someone who will not or cannot speak up for themselves. Use your voice, your skills, and your compassion to help this organization make a positive impact on the community. An impact that says domestic violence will not be tolerated and that help is available.

‘We need funds and we need support,’ said Kanour.

The task force is sellingBravelets as part of their fund-raising efforts. Purchase your bracelet to support this great cause and increase visibility of this often unacknowledged problem.

All proceeds will go to fund a shelter for victims of domestic violence in Nelson County, Virginia.

Pay It Forward – I hope it may thus go thro’ many hands, before it meets with a Knave that will stop its Progress



Most of us are familiar with ‘Pay it Forward,’ thanks in part to the 2000 movie of the same name. In the film, a young boy is assigned a school project to find an idea that can change the world. No small task there. The character develops the ‘pay it forward’ concept and sets into motion a chain reaction of good deeds that, while perhaps not changing the world, created a positive effect in the lives of many with the hope that it would continue indefinitely.

Perhaps lesser known is that this movement of sorts was conceptualized by one of our Nation’s Founding Fathers. In 1784, Benjamin Franklin gave a small amount of money to Benjamin Webb. Instead of repayment, Franklin asked that Webb, when he was able and the situation availed itself, find another‘…honest man in similar Distress. You must pay me by lending this Sum to Him.’ Franklin further beseeched Webb to ask that the next recipient carry on the tradition.

The concept has silently become nearly ubiquitous in American culture: Sci-Fi author Robert A. Heinlein makes note of it in Between Planets; it is also AA’s 12th Step; and it is mentioned repeatedly throughout popular culture. Regardless of its origins, the theory is both simple and powerful.

By paying it forward, one person and one seemingly small act can make a meaningful impact in the lives of many. The sum is greater than the parts. Money is certainly not necessary. Gestures, smiles, simple kindnesses are always (well, almost always) appreciated. Help the person who is struggling to get the groceries to their car, volunteer your time, stop and pick up that dog running loose in the street. These are small (sometimes) things we can do that will absolutely change the course of someone’s day. Maybe more than just their day.

Give it a try.

Have examples of paying it forward you would like to share?

Please do.


Fighting The Winter Doldrums

Once the holidays are over, when the days are still short and the nights are even colder, even the best of us can feel a little down. But it’s always possible to make our own light and warmth.

Here are some ideas for brightening the winter blues:

Crocuses in snow1. Make the best of it

Find the things you love about winter, the things that make you feel cozy and warm. Instead of saying it’s cold outside, think of how great it is to sit in front of a fireplace (whether it’s real or virtual). Look for the best that winter has to offer: Take up a winter activity such as ice skating, cross-country skiing, snowboarding, snowshoeing, hockey or sledding–or just spend an afternoon making a snowman with friends.

2. Volunteer

One of the best ways to keep yourself on track is to make time for others. Look for nearby opportunities and jump in to help.

Oscar Wilde once said, “Wisdom comes with winters.” So let’s celebrate the wisdom we’re gaining as we spice up our winter and make our days worthwhile.

snowmanmakingsm3. Stay active

One of the best ways to beat the blues, or any stress, is to exercise. It improves your mood by releasing feel-good chemicals, and it also helps you stay healthy. You can benefit from a workout at the gym, a long walk, or just dancing around your living room.

4. Bring in the light

If you’re depressed, it’s possible that you suffer from seasonal affective disorder. Bring in the light and spend some time with a full-spectrum lamp that mimics sunlight, or ask your doctor about more intensive solutions such as bright-light therapy. You may find substantial relief for the winter blues.

Tired, exhausted and bored woman yawning5. Take care of yourself

Do something that makes you happy. Find something, even something small, to treat yourself. Having something to look forward to can keep you motivated. Winter seems endless! But if you plan something exciting, your mood can improve just by anticipating it.

6. Get your Zs, but don’t overdo it

Make sure you get the right amount of sleep–not too little, and not too much. Sometimes when it’s dark and cold outside a warm bed is hard to leave. Overcoming that tendency is another reason to plan some fun for yourself.

7. Get stuff done

One way to take advantage of the cold months is to use the time to do the things that were hard to take care of when summer weather kept you outdoors. Clean your home, rearrange your office or your hard drive, learn a new language, read a complicated book, learn something new.  Be sure to collect anything that can be donated and take it to Goodwill or the DAV so those in need might benefit!

Christmas Charity

kid_christmas_giftThe christmas season (and ANY time) is a good time to start thinking about helping other people.  This includes providing food, clothing and toys for families to enable them to experience the joy of the Christmas Season. Giving warmth, love and hope. That’s what Christmas should be all about. A time to share our good fortune with our neighbors in need across the world.

Here’s a list of Christmas related charity programs and humanitarian organizations. Some small, some big. But all good.

ANGEL TREE: Angel Tree is a ministry of Prison Fellowship, delivering love in the form of Christmas gifts and a message of hope to children of prisoners.

CHRISTMAS WISH PROGRAMS: Christmas Wish Program, Inc. is a nonprofit organization run 100% by volunteers and donations. CWP is designed that way to let the public share in the joy of giving and the opportunity to help build a brighter future for local children.

Hans with presentCHRISTMAS SPIRIT FOUNDATION: Help needy children and families in the United States during the holiday season, and promote environmental stewardship throughout the year.

HOLIDAY PROJECT: The Holiday Project’s mission is to enrich the experience of the holidays by arranging visits to people confined to nursing homes, hospitals and other institutions

MAKE A WISH: Make this holiday season special by helping a child’s dream come true. Make a Wish’s unique holiday donation options will help grant the wishes of children with life-threatening medical conditions.

MY TWO FRONT TEETH: My Two Front Teeth offers a personalized online gift-giving experience to aid underprivileged children. These children are selected through community organizations and allowed to individually pick their one holiday wish.

xmascharityPLAN COMMUNITY OF CHILDREN : Give a gift to the people of Africa this Christmas and help reduce the devastating effects of HIV/AIDS.

TOYS FOR TOTS: Donate a new toy or give a donation to help make Christmas a little brighter for a needy child in your community

Great Gifts That Give Back

As consumers we have a choice of where to put our dollars, of where and how to spend them so that they are put to the best use possible.  When you are shopping for items for unique holiday gifts this year, why not consider purchasing gifts that give back to those who made them or gifts that pay it forward to charitable organizations? While we can give a beautiful gift to the person on our holiday list, we can pay it forward at the same time and put our dollars to use twice.  With that said, here are 5 suggestions of unique holiday gift ideas that give twice:

A Different Kind of Ballerinatutuproject

Is there someone in your life who has everything but you just want to make them laugh?  Check out Ballerina.  Photographer Bob Carey has taken brilliant photographs of himself wearing a pink tutu in various locations and compiled the photographs into this fabulous table book.  It costs $50, but ALL net proceeds support women with breast cancer.  For more information and to see a few of the photos, go to:  http://www.thetutuproject.com/support-the-tutu-project/ballerina-the-book/.

Cure by Design

Rachel began selling beaded bracelets to raise funds to find a cure for diabetes. Since then she has begun designing bracelets for several important causes. For every piece of jewelry sold at Rachel’s Cure by Design over $30, she donates $10.00 to the cause plus $10.00 to the Juvenile Diabetes Research Teardrop2_largeFoundation. Rachel has developed a beautiful selection of bracelets, necklaces and earrings to choose from, all of which would make a terrific holiday gift.  To see her designs, head on over to:  rachelscbd.com

Headbands of Hope

For every headband purchased, one is given to a girl with cancer and $1 is donated to the St. Baldrick’s foundation to fund cancer research.  The photo to the right is one of my personal favorites. The rhinestone and pearl trim is detailed and made from premium metal, pearls, and stones. All beading is attached by an elastic strand in the back to fit different head sizes. Cost is $24.85. Purchase your headband for hope and donate one to a girl with cancer at headbandsofhope.org

Let There be Wine

Charity Wines make the perfect gift for the sports fan on your list. The site partners with professional athletes and celebrities to create wines that help raise funds for a variety of charities throughout the country.  To search the site and find a retailer, go to:http://charitywines.com. Hurry, charity wines are exclusively single run wines.  Once they are sold out they are retired and no longer available.

glovesKnitted Beauty

Knits for Life is an Etsy store that makes ethical goods for everyday people.  She uses mostly all organic, recycled, and natural farm-direct materials for her knit wear.  For every hand made item purchased, a tree will be planted through The Nature Conservancy.  To browse the shop for your favorite, go to: http://www.etsy.com/shop/KnitsForLife.


Bottom line:  This is the Season of Giving so give the people you love a gift that gives to people you don’t know who need your help :)  HAPPY HOLIDAYS TO ALL!!!!!




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